This story is a part of Commencement Speech 2011 at Yale University performed by Tom Hanks (you can watch it in full on YouTube).
(Starting 13:07) Three men found that they could no longer sleep because of their deep-seeded fears. Their lives were in the state of stasis because of their constant worries. So they set out on a pilgrimage to find a wise man who lived high in the mountains, so high up above the tree line, that no vegetation grew, no animals live, not even insects could be found so high up in the mountains in that thin air. When they reached his cave the first of the three said:
“Help me, wise man, for my fear has crippled me!”
“What is your fear?”, said the wise man.
“I fear death,” said the pilgrim, “I wonder when it is going to come for me”
“Ah, death,” said the wise man. “Let me take away this fear, my friend. Death will not come to call until you are ready for its embrace. Know that and your fear will go away.”
Well, this cumbered pilgrim’s mind and he feared death no longer.
The wise man turned to the second pilgrim and said, “What is it you fear, my friend”
“I fear my new neighbors,” said the second pilgrim, “They are strangers who observe holy days different than mine! They have way too many kids. And they play music that sounds like noise.”
“Ah, strangers,” said the wise man. “I will take away this fear, my friend. Return to your home, and make a cake for your new neighbors. Bring toys to their children. Join them in their songs and learn their ways. And you will become familiar with these neighbors and your fear will go away.”
The second man saw the wisdom in this simple instruction and knew he would no longer fear the family who were his neighbors.
There in the cave so high in the mountains that nothing could live the wise man turned to the last pilgrim and asked of his fear.
“Oh, wise man. I fear… spiders. When I try to sleep at night I imagine spiders dropping from the ceiling and crawling upon my flesh and I cannot rest.”
“Ah, spiders,” said the wise man. “No, shit, why do you think I live way up here?!”